Mary M. Lander, age 87, of Wilmington, DE passed away on Sunday, July 22, 2018 surrounded by her family.Mary was born in Wilmington, the daughter of the late Timothy and Amy (McKay) McCarthy. She was a graduate of Wilmington High School and went on to work as an Administrative Assistant for DuPont, Christiana Care, and finally retired from ARC of DE, however Mary's most important job was that of a loving mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother. Mary was predeceased by her husband, Benjamin T. Lander, Jr.; her son, Benjamin J. Lander; her son-in-law, Thomas M. Baxter, Sr.; her grandson, Shaun Baxter; her sisters, Eileen and Elizabeth McCarthy and brothers, Thomas, Timothy, and Edward McCarthy.Mary is survived by her daughters, Kathleen Baxter and Theresa Duffy (John); her sons, James, Kevin, and Joseph Lander, all of Wilmington; her grandchildren, Thomas Baxter (Carrie), Joshua Slattery, Matthew and Ashley Lander, and Elizabeth Hickam; and her great grandchildren, Samuel and Ryan Baxter, Kaelynn and Alanna Slattery, Giovani Mazara, Alliana Vega and Erin Darling.Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Friday, July 27, 2018 at 11 AM at St. John the Beloved Church, 907 Milltown Rd, Wilmington, DE 19808, where friends may call after 10 AM. Burial will follow at All Saints Cemetery. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be sent to the Ministry of Caring, Inc., 115 E 14th St, Wilmington, DE 19801. Online condolences may be made at www.MealeyFuneralHomes.com.